What Every Married Woman Needs
by Steve Caresser
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About this book
This eBook is written by a man, Steve Caresser and it touches on 35 years of authentic experience in a successful marriage. This eBook is a guide to help men achieve a happier marriage. This eBook is growing, not only with knowledge, but with comments and questions from its readers. This eBook is designed and will help any man who applies its contents in their daily lives to have a happier and more successful marriage. Any woman or man who reads its contents and sends the author Steve Caresser a picture of themselves and a comment and their website link, will be considered for inclusion into this eBook. See the comments below. If you have a comment or question for Steve Caresser visit his site www.ePrintedBooks.com and use his contact link to send it.
Note from the Author
Your definition of a woman’s petals may be different from the Authors. The Authors definition of a woman’s petals is: referring to her deepest most internal feelings, her deep emotions the heart of motivation.
Understanding a Woman
How does one understand a woman? Imagine your wife as a beautiful flower. When you hold a flower and admire its beauty, its paintbrush strokes that are so delicately painted on, you are in awe or you should be. If you have not looked at a flower close enough to see the delicate paintbrush strokes, I suggest you go do that. When you see how each delicate petal is painted and connected you are compelled to use one finger to touch and pet it. If you use your whole hand to pet it, you could easily damage it. If you think of your wife any differently, you will fear badly.
If you want a flower to blossom and open up for you, there are a few things you need to do. Water it, caress it, pet it, show it love and affection, and carry on meaningful conversations with it throughout the day.
Try that with your wife sometime. Offer her drink, coffee, water, soda ext. Do so everyday, and go get it and pour it for her. Have a meaningful conversation with her. “My girl companion, what will your day, belike? Is it possible to meet up and have lunch together and talk about the new cat you want? Can I vacuum the floor and clean the toilet today? Can I mop the kitchen floor? What can I do to help lighten your burden?” You keep the meaningful conversation going in your everyday life and her petals will open up. Why? Because your meaningful conversation is exposing your inner spirit and heart. That is very comforting to a wife. The rewards are; when they are comfortable with you their petals open up for you.
If you have problems carrying on meaningful conversations with your wife, just continue to read this book and you will acquire understanding.
Do I have to be perfect?
When I rise in the morning, I always try to apply my acquired knowledge. Do I succeed always? No I do not. You see I am an imperfect man (just like you) who is unable to apply everything perfectly. Does this discourage me? At one time it did, but no longer. You see 35 years of success; even though I am unable to apply my knowledge perfectly, shows that anyone can succeed in their marriage if they keep a few things in mind. What are the few things? Acquire knowledge from someone with years of successful married life. Then upon rising in the morning do your best to apply your knowledge in your day. If every morning, you do your best to apply your knowledge (though imperfect and making mistakes) you will see progress that will lead to a successful marriage.
Welcome the morning
Most women are moody in the morning. How do we have a nice morning in spite of their moody feelings? Welcome the morning it is wonderful when you understand women.
So when I rise in the morning. I always ask if I can have a kiss. “May I taste your sweet lips this morning my girl companion?” Why do I ask? Why not just walk up to a moody wife and kiss her? Because a man should never force his affection on anyone, not even his wife. If she is in the mood for a kiss, she will kiss me and it will be nice. If she is not in the mood, she will not kiss me and it will still be nice. Next, given a kiss or not, I thank her for being my girl companion. Then I ask and do anything she will allow me to do to help make her morning work easier.
The Husband Rules
Rules for the husband to follow closely: Your desire is to be the Ruler and King of your castle, right? The following rules are how a husband shows unselfish love and respect to his wife. Give her life. Live her life with her. Do the things she wants to do. Go places she wants to go. Yes show her unselfish love. Be part of her life. Enjoy seeing her enjoy her life. Always ask her opinion before making a decision. Take her feelings and opinions into account, and if her feelings and opinions are not going to harm the family, then show unselfish love by letting her feelings and opinions be observed in your life.
It is a very selfish and unwise man who demands things his way. Selfishness in a man will self-destruct his marriage in little less than a year. If a selfish man married a super woman the marriage may last 2 or 3 years, but it will no fail self destruct.
If you practice showing her unselfish love in your daily life, one day she will return unselfish love to you in abundance. She will no fail, begin to ask you, where you want to go or do. When a woman’s heart is touched by an unselfish man, she returns undying unselfish love. So much love that your heart will have a satisfaction that is out of this world, a satisfaction in all aspects of your married life and yes that includes your marital love making.
The Man Has the Power
Did you know? If there is unhappiness in the marriage it rest mainly on the man. He has the power to turn an unhappy marriage into a happy one. If he learns to, and treats his wife with unselfish love and respect, (no matter how bad his wife is treating him) given enough time she will return to him a bounty of unselfish love along with deep respect.
If you’re not showing her unselfish love and respect, why would you even begin to think she should show you unselfish love and respect? It starts with you man. You will never have a satisfying marriage until you recognize this fact and put it into practice in your everyday life. If you need to, read the rules over and over again and become the real Ruler and King of your castle.
The next time your wife is emotional and saying things that hurt you; apologize to her, tell her you love her and will try harder. Women have that monthly cycle and her emotions are unstable. Women are breaking down from this stressful world and they are not perfect either. Indeed it is a fool who builds a fence between him and his wife when her hormones are off balance.
Any man who’s feelings are hurt by what his wife says during that monthly hormonal cycle (or at anytime for that matter) is a child and he had better grow up quickly or he will loose his marriage.
When you are walking down the road and someone hollers’ a curse word at you, how does a real man respond? A real man smiles and keeps on walking. If the person confronts him, he does his best to reason with him. If he advances to do bodily harm, then and only then, he protects himself. If words hurt you, you’re a child that had better grow up.
Here is an illustrated story of what happens in everyday life while taking a walk. My wife can not run because she is disabled, but she can walk for short spells. We were enjoying a walk together. From across the street 3 thugs began hollering curse words at us. I smiled and kept on walking with my wife. From the corner of my eye, I could see they were crossing the street toward us. If I stop to reason with them it will give my wife enough time to walk safely to our car.
I said: “My love, my girl companion of mine, please keep walking and don’t look back until you are safe inside our car and if need be call the authorities.”
I knew that even thugs admire bravery. I turned and began walking toward them. When I reached them I smiled and extended my hand and said: “Hi my name is Steve Caresser, what is yours?” The ring leader with amazement on his face took a long stare into my eyes (the other 2 pushed their switchblade buttons) and finally he smiled and extended his hand and replied: “I’m Spider, and I have changed my mind, we are taking our venom elsewhere.” They turned and walked back across the street.
Now I ask you. Does your wife feel in her heart and know in her mind that you would lay down your life to protect her? If you are childish with hurt feelings when she says something off the wall and you respond with hurtful words, she will never feel that way.
If you want a woman to treat you with unselfish love and respect, you must first earn it. Treat her with unselfish love and respect and stop acting like a child with hurt feelings. She then will open up her heart that you have filled with love. She will open her petals and blossom forth and pour upon you more love then you can handle.
Laying Down Your Life
This is a true story of Steve Caresser laying down his life for his wife.
The swimming area in the river was calm as my wife and 12 year old daughter were swimming. Downstream about 100 yards at the edge of the swimming area the water began flowing faster and faster as it dropped off the edge of the jagged rocks that formed a dam. On the other side of the rock dam it was treacherous jagged rocks, where throughout the year they road canoes on white water rapid races.
At the time we had no idea that the upstream dam was regulated by sounding an alarm and then suddenly releasing 2 feet of water into the river for as long as they felt the need to keep their upstream dam from being overwhelmed. This also was done right before the white water races began down the treacherous jagged rocks.
The water was ice cold coming down from the snowy mountain tops. I have a heart condition and must avoid ice cold water. So while my wife and daughter were enjoying their peaceful swim I was cooking our dinner under the ground. Yes I had dug a hole and built a fire and when it died down to hot coals, I set our steaks, potatoes, carrots and corn on the cob that were inside the sealed cooking pot, down inside the hot coals and buried it with the rivers sand.
The man next to me was admiring my outdoor cooking abilities as he began explaining that the search party finally found the missing woman just yesterday down river beaten to death by the treacherous ragged rocks on the other side of the rock dam.
As I sat back in my lounge chair watching my daughter swim toward me, she suddenly stopped mid river and hollered “I got a leg cramp!” No sooner did I stand up and my wife hollered: “I’ll get you” and she swung from the opposite bank on a rope and landed in the river next to my daughter.
I being proud of my wife sat back down on my lounge chair to watch her heroic show.
When my wife reached my daughter and grabbed hold of her, she hollered: “oh no I have a leg cramp too!”
I stood up watching them both and I could tell they needed help and (the siren sounded its alarm!)
Everyone began swimming for both banks and climbing out of the water like a bunch of rats that were about to be droned.
The man standing next to me hollered: “get them out of there they just released water from the dam and they will be swept down the white rapids!”
As I ran toward the rivers edge I watched my wife and daughter rise with the in coming water and begin to swiftly move toward the white water rapids!
While in mid stride for the river, a life jacket was tossed at me and it landed on the ground. Stopping to pick it up would prevent me from reaching them in time. I dove into the water at the speed of a launched torpedo and serviced swimming like a dolphin out running a ship.