Simple Secrets for
Building Self-Esteem
and
Finding Your True Self
By
Suzanne E. Harrill, M.Ed.
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COPYRIGHT© 2011 Suzanne E. Harrill
Innerworks Publishing
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Castle Rock, CO 80108
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First Printing: March 2011
ISBN 978-1-883648-33-6
This book is dedicated to my
grandchildren
Joshua Allen Johnson
Samantha Grace Shuemake
Dylan Daniel Shuemake
Jordan Herschel Johnson
And all I do not know yet
High self-esteem is a quiet, comfortable feeling of acceptance and love for yourself as you are. It is respecting yourself while honestly seeing your good and not-so-good qualities.
Sound self-esteem is characterized by congruence between inner states (beliefs, feelings, attitudes) and outer states (behaviors, relationships, health). It is being your true Self.
"I am the person I spend the most time with, so it’s important to know myself inside and out. It’s not selfish to spend time learning to know who I am. I take the time to discover what my thoughts, beliefs, feelings, values, goals, and needs are. When I know myself, I avoid being manipulated by others or by life's circumstances. I prepare myself by knowing myself well."
Suzanne E. Harrill, Seed Thoughts for Loving Yourself – Cultivating the Garden of Your Mind Day by Day
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Table of Contents
Introduction
Theme: Deep Inside of You
Part One: Getting Started
Esteem Problem and Not Even Know It?
Part Two: The Harrill Self-Esteem
Awareness Inventory
Part Three: Eight Ways to Improve
Your Self-Esteem
Part Four: Affirmations
Part Five: Why Are You Here?
Summary
Bio of Suzanne E. Harrill
Introduction
My intention for writing this brief book is to share a powerful path for improving your life. It begins with building a solid foundation of sound self-esteem and continuing the inner work of finding and reconnecting to your true Self. I have been blessed with teachers who showed me the way to my true nature when I was ready to move beyond the conditioning of my early life. Many of these powerful teachers were never met in person; instead, I read their books and listened to their CD’s. My choice of a counseling career led me further on my path of self-discovery. I learned as much from my clients as they learned from me, as we are all teachers to one another. Many people I worked with were able to move beyond many emotional issues and thinking patterns that held them back. Most put into practice the secrets in this book.
As a baby and young child we only know ourselves through the reflection of our caregivers. Our self-esteem is influenced greatly from their words, moods, feelings, beliefs, actions, and how they treated themselves. For many of us, our self-esteem suffered from the effects of unaware adults.
Now is the time to take responsibility for your own life and well-being. There are several major shifts in awareness that you must make, as I did. One is to move your center of power from an external locus of control to an internal one. You will learn to stop being a victim and being hurt by circumstances and other people’s moods. Your new focus within will help build your self-esteem and increase your ability to respond rather than react to people and events in your life. This inner-strength will carry you far. When you forget and get caught up in not liking what another says, thinks, or does, or you resist what is happening in your outer world, you will be able to re-center yourself and disengage from the drama and dysfunction you see.
Another shift in awareness will be to open your mind to new ideas and explore greater truths. Much of what you have been taught may no longer be serving you, and many of your thoughts and beliefs may need some updating.
You will not only open your mind to new ideas and change your restrictive thinking, you will also be opening your heart as well. This allows your true nature to come forth.
As you peel away much of the negative conditioning (healing and transforming is a process that never ends) you will find your innate worth and goodness; and learn to love yourself unconditionally. This you will then easily pass on to others.
This simple book is a road map to feeling good and finding a fuller place of living. It will help you express your creative potential, have rich, meaningful relationships, and make a difference with your life.
It brings me great joy to share these simple secrets to unconditionally loving and accepting yourself and living your life as a reflection of your true Self.
Fortunate blessings,
Suzanne
Theme: Deep Inside
Deep inside of you is the seed of your true Self. This seed holds the blueprint for who you are a loving, joy-filled, creative human being, experiencing rich, meaningful relationships and living with deep purpose. The true Self is hidden by the ego or personality of the conditioned self, which is influenced by the beliefs and behaviors of your parents, extended family, and the community in which you grew up. Learning these patterns during your early years was necessary to live successfully at the time; however, some of your thinking and behavioral patterns may be negatively influencing you today. Many unaware parents pass on low self-esteem, which affects a child’s emotional development. It hinders their ability to access their innate goodness, truth, and beauty.
Loving yourself is the foundation of your life and influences everything you think, say, and do. Building Self-esteem will lead you back to who you already are: a beautiful divine being of pure consciousness, who is innately good, loving, and creative. The following acorn analogy summarizes your journey.